Divorce is not a one-time event. It is a process that began before the “actual” divorce – and will continue long after the couple’s separation. But this doesn’t mean that one has to suffer on the entire duration of the process. Although there is no universal timeline or standard process on how to recover from divorce (as “recovery” depends on different factors which may vary per individual) – there are however, some common Do’s and Don’ts that may make life after divorce easier or harder.
If you know someone that you just can’t stand or couldn’t get along well with for no particular reason, then it is possible that your personality is conflicting with his/her. Personality conflict may happen anywhere – with social circles, family members, but most commonly at work.
Personality conflicts mostly happen at work – especially if the two people involved are part of the same group or department. Even if they don’t want to see each other and try to avoid each other, the work setting makes this difficult.
Don’t force yourself to face the challenges alone.
Knowing the factors affecting divorce recovery, plus the Do’s and Don’ts, does somewhat help to cope with life after divorce. Unfortunately, there are some who are seemingly stuck and couldn’t continue living a normal life.
Divorce is painful. Although it does represent the end of the marital relationship, it does not follow the end of life. Below are some helpful activities that helps in post-divorce recovery:
Instead of grieving, keep busy. Some people busy themselves by reading books, making a journal, discovering a hobby, studying something or even going to school.
This basically includes finding a strong support network either through friends or family. A support group may also come from online sources but tread with caution.
It’s difficult – but the sooner this is realized, the better. It’s time to reflect on new sources or what makes you happy nowadays. Accept the reality and be true to yourself.
Sometimes, it takes professional help to recover from emotional devastation brought on by divorce. Don’t be embarrassed to seek professional, expert help or advice.
