There would always be instances of “agreement” and “non-agreement” when dealing regularly with certain people. It is only normal to disagree if the other person’s view or interest does not match with ours. However, after listening to a few explanations and having a clearer view of what that person has to say, then there is a chance of agreeing with one another.
Unfortunately, there is a thing called “Personality Conflict” If a person’s way of thinking, style of doing things, or overall lifestyle is incompatible with ours, then the chances of agreeing with that person is very slim – in fact, conflict is bound to happen.
If you know someone that you just can’t stand or couldn’t get along well with for no particular reason, then it is possible that your personality is conflicting with his/hers. Personality conflict may happen anywhere – with social circles, family members, but most commonly at work.
Personality conflicts mostly happen at work – especially if the two involved are part of the same group or department. Even if they don’t want to see or avoid each other, they couldn’t in such type of setting.
Avoidance seems like the quickest solution – but its effect is also short and is not really that effective. Personality conflict has serious consequences like physical and mental stress, constant annoyance, lower productivity, emotionally draining, ineffectiveness, etc… Additionally, if you experience some of these negative feelings, it may also affect other people around you who are not directly involved in the conflict.
This basically means defining the problem. It would be impossible to solve anything if we don’t know where the issue is stemming from. It might be from a small issue that irked you, a lingering difference in opinion, or because of the other person’s basic philosophy that is not inclined with yours.
When we don’t go along well with someone, most of the things that we think about them are their faults which only infuriates us more. Try thinking of that person’s contribution and strength points. If we can see the person on a more positive light, we might not be too irritated the next time we see them (this is really handy for the next part)
Solving things means doing something. This step might the most difficult part as this requires action, an open mind, and a little bit of courage and patience. It is never easy to talk and discuss with a person whom you think makes your life a living hell (who knows, maybe the person views you the same as well so it’s time to clear things up)
When talking with the person, use words that may not seem offensive. If you think that the person is purposely irking you, don’t return the favor. Choose your response delicately. Remember the whole point of talking with him/her is to solve the conflict – not to aggravate it.
There would be cases where the outcome is not what you expected. If the other person does not respond appropriately to end the conflict, here are some things you can do:
Each person has their own unique trait and characteristic. This is why their views is not similar with ours. If interaction is unavoidable, conflicts and disputes due to personality differences may occur. Do something and don’t prolong it.
